Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Susie Sue Rocked the Lace Dress.

I got back from my friend Sue Lay and Tony Nickles' wedding over the weekend. (I use their full name in case someone actually googles them.). It was the first time I have seen Sue in about 10 years. I realized several things whilst in Portland.

1. Sue is frackin’ gorgeous. I mean drop dead gorgeous. It’s not that I had forgotten about that, but it’s more that I had just taken it for granted when we were hanging out together – something the distance of 10 years alleviated. Granted it WAS her wedding day and she WAS suppose to be super beautiful, but looking at her, it’s totally clear that this just how she looks. Always amazing.

Why the heck are all my friends so fabulously attractive?

Sue, of course, was the one who told me about psychological aspects of attractiveness. Apparently “like” attracts “like” in terms of people attractiveness levels. Thus a relationship often works out with people who are on the same level of attractiveness. The classic example being Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie on the higher end of attractiveness, and Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman on the other end of the spectrum.

Sue, being who she is, had brought up this theory in college, when a friend of her was trying to set her up. Apparently her friend was going on about the guy she wanted to set Sue up with, and Sue was afraid the guy might have been TOO attractive…. As if.

On a side note, when I once made comment to a friend of mine (at the time, using the example of Tom Cruise/Nicole Kidman and Danny DeVito/Rhea Perlman) she immediately came back with the very pertinent question – “yeah, but who would you rather hang out with?” of which the obvious answer would be Danny and Rhea.

On another completely different side note, this theory apparently does not apply to Janet Jackson, Jennifer Lopez, or Beyoncé.

2. The actress Kate Beckinsale looks like Sue in a vague sort of way. No, it’s not that my friend Sue looks like Kate Beckinsale, it’s the other way around. AJ couldn’t see it, but then I think he has a sketchy idea of what Kate looks like. Plus he says that hair color makes a huge difference in the way a person looks, and he couldn’t get over the difference in hair color.

I really only realized this resemblance as the wedding progressed. Why I never noticed it before I have no idea. But it COMPLETELY explains why I liked the movie UNDERWORLD. It was like watching my friend Sue kicking ass in tight leather pants. I even had fleeting moments of it, even as I watched her take her vows. I always thought the movie reminded me of Sue because she had that thing for vampires, but now I know the real reason.

3. Sue seemed genuinely pleased to have AJ and I there. I didn’t have a chance to talk to her at all that much (it was as if EVERYONE there knew her! Like it was a big party JUST FOR HER!) but everytime she talked to me she kept on going on about how happy she was that I came all that way for her.

The thing that I never had a chance to convey to her – and something I have only consciously become aware of, is that getting invited/going to a wedding is a privilege for me, not the other way around. The chance to see a couple, any couple, publicly announce their very private love for each other is nothing short of amazing. And when you are close to one or both of the people in the couple – it’s magical.

AJ and I were lucky to be invited up to the wedding. This was the third wedding in the past six months, with two more to go in the next six months. Each different, each amazing in their own right. Sue’s wedding was fantastic and beautiful.

4. I love Sue. It had been 10+ years since I’ve seen her. She hasn’t a changed a bit. I want to hang out with her, and see her more often. Hopefully I will. Portland isn’t that far away. And one of these days, I’ll drag her ass down here to SF. I want the opportunity to just hang out, watch TV (we had an unhealthy obsession with Prime Suspect back in the day), and get to know her husband Tony. He seems way cool. Anyone who plays Coolio and Echo and the Bunnymen at their wedding reception is okay in my book.

Congrats Sue and Tony. Let’s hang out - Portland and San Francisco aren't that far apart. I miss you.

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At 9:46 PM, Blogger Jon said...

i'm sure your friend would have been a better actress in Pearl Harbor. I actually saw that in the theater thinking it would have camp factor....sadly enough, it was so bad it was just that

i already like her- I adore prime suspect. sure, law and order has it's moments, but i love how PS delves into the minds of deeply disturbed individuals- and how jane never quit smoking or found a man

At 11:11 PM, Blogger jackhonky said...

Ah Prime Suspect. Those were the days. Good times. Good. Times.

I haven't watched an episode since then, but yes, I completely agree. I love the bad ass Helen Mirren solving crime, always smoking, and always having relationship issues.

A quick wikipedia search shows that there apparently was a new Prime Suspect series called Prime Suspect: The Final Act last year! Who knew? Next time I hang out with Sue (and I can only hope that is soon) we have to rent it...

Oh, and quick aside, strangely I've never seen a single episode of Law and Order. Several of my friends find this incredible, as at any single time you turn on the TV, there seems to be some variation or flavor of the show on. *shrug* I guess I just never turn on the TV randomly.

At 4:11 PM, Anonymous megs said...

Portland, you were in Portland and we received nary a phone call? Irvin how could you. Bend is also not far from San Francisco and AJ promised me you'd come for a visit. The subaru wants to come to Bend, it really really does.

At 4:58 PM, Blogger jackhonky said...

I actually TOLD my boyfriend to call you! Even if we didn't have a chance to see you, I wanted to TELL YOU that we were in your state!

But NO he didn't. You can blame him. Especially since he has your phone number and I don't.

Actually we were pretty busy, and as we had actually flown up, you would have had to drive up to see us - for the short time that we weren't doing wedding stuff. It probably wasn't worth it.

Besides you were the one that flew to New Zealand instead of coming to our dessert party. So there.

One of these days, we WILL do a northwest trip though. REALLY. Bend, Portland (we want to go back), Seattle. Maybe even Vancouver (I've never been to Canada).

One of these days....

On a side note, I had a dream last night that I was walking down our street heading into the Mission, and you and Deyon (in full bunny gear) were cycling towards me. That's all I remember. So you are in my (subsconcious) mind.

At 8:03 PM, Blogger Rita said...

I can see the Kate Beckinsale resemblance . . . although I, like AJ, only have a vague idea what Kate looks like. And I remember you always touting that attractiveness theory, using Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise as the example. Hee. Good to learn more about the source. Congrats to the happy couple!

I don't think there are men hot enough for Janet, J-Lo, and Beyonce. Though, since there is no picture of the groom here, I will presume Sue got one. :)


At 12:13 AM, Blogger jackhonky said...

Sadly I never really got any good shots of Sue's husband Tony. But he's quite a looker. I think they make an adorable couple. :)

At 6:59 AM, Blogger The Beautiful Kind said...

How come Stephanie's wedding didn't get a blog entry? I wonder if you've posted the pics yet. I'll go check the email from you that's sitting in my inbox.

And OMG did you see this? So awesome.

At 7:15 AM, Blogger jackhonky said...

Stephanie's wedding didn't get an entry because I'm lazy. Pictures and entry are forthcoming. Hopefully. I said that about another wedding that I attended and that never happened either.

I'm so lazy.


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